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When and How to Get Help
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When and How to Get Help

If you are depressed, tired, suffering from low self-esteem, angry or upset about the way things are going, you may need to get help.  However, before you can get help, you have to be willing to help yourself.  While counselors, teachers, coaches and advisers are very attentive and caring, they may not notice that you are out of sorts if you keep your feelings bottled up inside.  So, there are a few things you can do to get yourself back on the right track:


First - Isolate what it is that is bothering you.  If it is a specific event, write down all the key players and details.  Write it down because doing so slows you down; it is a calming exercise.  If it is some more general, vague feeling that is bothering you, write down all the things that might be making you unhappy.  Doing so separates the real troubles from the minor ones that seem major in light of bigger problems.  Practice:  write about an event that upset you and how you resolved it.  Were you satisfied with how you resolved it?

Second - Try to figure out what threat these troubles pose to your self-esteem.  Are they making you feel poorly about yourself?

Third - Consider what if anything you have done about the situation or the trouble(s).  Have you spoken to someone?  Have you tried to solve the problem on your own?


Fourth - Review everything you have thought about thus far to see if any of it may be exaggerated (“I don’t belong at this school because I failed the chemistry test”), over generalized (“I shouldn’t bother with trying out for another play because I didn’t even make the first callback on this one”), hypercritical (“Even though everybody was saying angry, stupid things, what I said was the dumbest and therefore the thing everyone will remember”

 

HOW DO YOU KEEP FROM BEING BULLIED?

  • HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS. Bullies pick on kids who are alone.
  • JOIN GROUPS and find friends who like the same things you do.
  • LOOK AROUND SCHOOL. You're probably not the only kid being bullied. Make friends with other kids who are alone. Maybe you can help other kids.
  • WALK TO SCHOOL WITH SOMEONE - brothers, sisters, neighbors, or friends.
  • AVOID BULLIES. If you know a kid who doesn't like you, then stay away from them.
  • AVOID PLACES WHERE BULLIES ARE. Walk to school earlier or later. Take different paths to school to keep away from the bully. Don't be alone in the hallways, restrooms, empty classrooms, or playgrounds.
  • STAY WITHIN SIGHT OF TEACHERS AND GROWNUPS when you are at school. If they can see you, they can help you.
  • SIT NEAR THE BUS DRIVER on the school bus.
  • DON'T BRING EXPENSIVE STUFF OR LOTS OF MONEY to school. Bullies pick on kids who bring things they can take. It's not worth getting hurt. Things can be replaced but you can't!
  • CHECK OUT THE WAY YOU ACT. Slouching, looking at the ground or your feet, and fidgeting show that you're not sure of yourself. Look confident and the bully probably won't pick on you.
  • DON'T ACT SCARED - hold your head up, stand up straight, and don't look at the ground or your feet. Bullies don't pick on kids who are confident.

You are welcome to make an appointment with your Guidance Counselor at any time.
Please stop in the Guidance Office and fill out a request.